As a rule, strong women unconsciously complicate their lives, and that is a fact. 

If such a woman were to agree, as an experiment, to change her modus operandi (method of operation from Latin), she would be surprised to discover how unexpectedly easy and pleasant it is to be Strong and Weak at the same time.

In analytical psychology, the reflection of a Man in a woman's unconscious is called the Animus (from the Latin "mind" or "spirit") or "Inner Man," reflected in the demonstration of a male behavioral model.

The reflection of a Woman in a man's unconscious is called the Anima (from the Latin "soul") or "Inner Woman," manifested in the demonstration of a female behavioral model.

This archetype embodies the relationship of opposites Man-Woman, representing a deep inner structure through which a person processes everything they encounter in life. For instance, it's noted that we behave towards the external world as we do towards the opposite sex.

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It is also essential to understand that for a sense of harmony, completeness, and integrity, each of us simply needs the opposite complement. Thus, it is normal for a woman to have both "Inner Woman" and "Inner Man" qualities. The ideal ratio is 70% - Woman to 30% - Man. For example, when driving a car or working in an office, a woman demonstrates male qualities - composure, decision-making speed, etc. An example of showing female qualities could be gentleness, sensitivity, or sexuality, and so on. Difficulties begin when a woman's behavior model loses the 70% - 30% ratio and it manifests itself as follows:

1. A woman does not accept help, as a rule, it sounds like: "No, it's okay, I can do it myself!" and the woman gets used to being strong and gradually starts competing not only with her colleagues at work but even with her husband.

2. A woman does not show her feelings, she forbids herself to be weak, to be a Woman. As a rule, it starts in childhood, where the little girl is taught to meet others' expectations and be good for others and never for herself. If a Woman does not talk about herself, about her feelings she will always be convenient for others and will ease the lives of other people. But what about her life, who will take care of her?

3. A woman strives to be perfect. Perfectionism rules, an illusory world that penetrates our lives from mass media imposes ideas about career, relationships with the opposite sex, child-rearing, business, etc. But in reality, it doesn't matter if a Woman has the perfect home, body, husband, children, work, etc. What is important is whether the Woman will be happy if something from this list is missing?

4. A woman always contests. Born to achieve, win, and resist, strong Women easily engage in revolutionary actions and often without a real reason. It's good to ask yourself: "Why do I need this, how does it relate to me, will it help the situation, what will I lose, and what will I gain, are there other options?"

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5. A woman devalues her Man. If a man "messed up" he gets what he deserves, but even if he was impeccable, a strong Woman takes it for granted. Let's be honest – Men need admiration, compliments, and recognition just like Women do. In such situations, a simple phrase like "I'm so lucky to have you, sometimes I envy myself" would suffice.

6. A woman devalues herself. She finds it hard to accept compliments from others. And she truly does not believe it when someone acknowledges her achievements and says "You're great!" But why? Let's admit it, players always have a worse view of the game than spectators. 

7. A woman becomes a rescuer. Since a strong Woman can handle almost any situation, she easily, and sometimes accidentally, gets involved in solving other people's problems. But, as a rule, our energy reserves are not limitless. And here it is important to understand that engaging in solving someone else's problem is a subconscious desire to solve one's own, very similar. But energy is spent on someone else's, and one's own remains unsolved. One must remember this and ask oneself: "What is it about me here, why do I want to be a rescuer, what resonated with me?"

It is important to consciously accept the fact that there is always a choice: to be strong or happy?

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