If you are "a little over 30" and for various reasons you find yourself without a partner, and now, on one hand, you are mentally ready for "serious relationships," but on the other hand, you have many arguments against it: is it possible to attract someone at this age, where do people who are "a little over 30" meet, etc.?

Let's try to figure out how the rules for finding a partner change over the years, what requirements we have for each other, etc.

"Of course, when we were 18, we easily met people on the street, in transport, at parties…", you would say.

Now, how to create relationships when you have life experience, not always successful, behind you?

The first thing to do is honestly answer a few questions:

• Are you truly ready to let another person into your life with their lifestyle, habits, etc., receiving in return closeness, love, and care?
• Are you ready for transformations, after all, you will have to forget about your past experiences and disappointments for the sake of new relationships?
• Can you use your accumulated life experience to good use? In relationships, it is always necessary to be a "juggler" to maintain balance in many areas such as politeness-sincerity, love-fairness, give-take, strength-weakness, man-woman, process-result?

Also read: “...They lived happily ever after...” - is it true?.

If you answered "yes", that's good news because the most interesting part is just beginning. So, imagine what your couple will look like, create a portrait of your chosen one, and go to places where they "reside," top 5 rules of search:

• You need to understand what your strengths are that attract the opposite sex? Personal qualities are often underestimated in building relationships, but if a person has an interest in their life, it attracts the opposite sex like a magnet. Take care to have an "exciting" time with yourself first, and others will tune into your emotional background.
• What strengths of the opposite sex attract you? Create a portrait. What qualities are important, and what "negatives" are you willing to overlook. What is his/her profession? What hobbies?
• Who in your circle can help in the search for a potential partner? Look, who among your acquaintances could help, who could become a guide, an advisor in this matter? If new acquaintances are needed – take action.
• Where does your potential partner usually spend time? If you are interested in a representative of the creative intelligentsia, look for them in their natural environment: in galleries, exhibitions, performances, concerts. If you see your chosen one as a master of culinary arts, attend master-classes. What sport do they engage in? Extreme? Then it's time for you to go there too.
• What is your value to the partner? How and with what can you interest your chosen one? Can you listen, inspire, or cook deliciously? Do you have a sense of humor that gives others "wings"? Your main value might be just one quality, but you should know it and use it.

Also read: “Change, you can't leave” or “change can't be left” the decision is yours..

And take this as a game. Remember how it was in childhood - see, like, want. And everything will work out.

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