It's only in fairy tales that all troubles occur before, while in real life after is when everything just begins.

Also read: Questions to ask «before»… .

Don't believe it when someone tells you about perfectly smooth relationships - that's impossible, living people have a multitude of reasons to feel anger, resentment, indignation. If you feel, you are alive.

The question is how you communicate your feelings to your partner – loudly, quietly, with humor, irony, imposing guilt, or inviting dialogue. It’s important not to harbor resentment, but to talk about it sincerely and aloud.

«There are three traps that steal happiness: regret about the past, anxiety for the future, and ingratitude for the present» Osho.

To regret nothing and not to worry, just be grateful to your other half for being there, and relationships can be refreshed, revived, ignited, call it what you like and most importantly act, remember how active you were at the beginning of the relationship:

1. Send messages – don't be lazy and don't skimp on kind words, especially suitable for partners in the «ice age» status, who have reached the level of communication: «who will pick up the kids» or «the fridge needs stocking».
2. Spend time alone together. No need to plan a grand tour, but a weekend away in a different setting and without children – you definitely won't forget this experience.
3. An evening for two. No need to leave the house, you can just talk, watch a movie, and candles and a glass of wine will create the right emotional tone.
4. If you feel that the relationship has «consumed» you completely and you are just suffocating, remember that both of you had your own personal life before – meet friends, go shopping with girlfriends, go fishing, etc.
5. Touch each other. Often, when everyday stress and household issues extinguish the desire to make love, psychotherapists advise using «caressing touches» avoiding «hot spots».
6. Create a tradition of getting to know each other again. Remember your first dates and try to meet as if for the first time, treat it as a game and improvise.
7. Accept each other. Unconditional acceptance of your partner - understanding that they have the right to all their moods, needs, emotions, traits, and desires is the secret to long and happy relationships.
8. Trust each other. Emotional intimacy doesn't fall from the sky, it's a painstaking daily effort. Listen to and hear each other, and you will succeed.
9. Shared goals. Many relationships end when, for example, children grow up and leave home. As if the mission is accomplished and a feeling of emptiness appears. If this happened in your life – urgently create a new project, look for joint hobbies, etc. this will strengthen your relationship and definitely prevent you from aging prematurely.

Also read: «...lived happily ever after...» - is it true?.

10.Create your own rituals. Here it's simple, understand what you enjoy doing together – having breakfast, walking the dog, visiting museums, going out to nature, etc. understand and just do it for pleasure.

In fairy tales, dreams always come true, but in real life, it is only your choice. «…lived happily ever after…» - is it true?

Also read: «Change, can't stay» or «change can't, stay» the decision is yours..

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