Everything is always individual, someone is lucky, and the relationship with the partner is consistently great. For others, it's arguments and tears every other day. The only solution is to create a healthy relationship from the very start.

Here are 5 habits to cultivate in yourself and your partner for a long and happy life:

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1. Don't avoid conflicts. At first glance, this recommendation might seem strange, but it's a myth that couples in healthy relationships never argue. It's very important to learn to use a conflict situation as a chance to hear about your partner's needs and express where your needs are not being met or simply ask for help. It's crucial to do this with respect for your partner and with love and self-care.

2. Be open to change.

Partners should have the opportunity to grow, change, and develop simultaneously. If a woman decides to sacrifice her development for the sake of family, it will not lead to anything good. Couples often drift apart when they no longer match each other's pace of development and simply become bored. Be open to new knowledge and hobbies — this will take you to a new level and strengthen your relationship.

 3. Understand your style of relationship with your partner.

When a child is born, they know nothing about themselves, life, or the world. Looking at their parents and their relationship, the child unconsciously decides how relationships between men and women should be built. Later, the child mimics this model in their adult life. That's why one partner might seek protection and cling to the other, or conversely, try to keep a distance and emotionally detach from the partner, etc.

Ideally, the couple should have a safe interaction style where communication is based on mutually beneficial cooperation, and neither partner has to give up their self, goals, achievements, etc.

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4. Don't rush to conclusions.

Not everything we hear should be taken at face value. Everyone has bad moods, health, etc. So take a deep breath, calm down, focus, and ask for clarification for a clearer understanding of the situation. Develop a habit of asking clarifying questions: "What do you mean when you say...?" The first step to a healthy relationship is to learn to listen to understand, not to react immediately, aiming to win the argument.

5. Use all available resources.

There are currently plenty of resources available that offer helpful advice for strengthening relationships. If everything mentioned above doesn't help, seek assistance from a psychologist.

There is no magic recipe, "Viam supervadet vadens" or "The road is overcome by the one who walks it", the main thing is to take the first step, the rest will be easier...

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