Infidelity most often occurs when people stop hearing each other, when sincerity disappears, when they don't talk about their feelings and about what's happening in their lives. According to statistics, 60-70% of people experience infidelity in marital relationships.

When a man cheats, women think it's only the man's fault. I don't exclude that there are men who are not ready for serious relationships and their infidelity will be systematic. In such a case, no matter how good the wife is, infidelity cannot be avoided.

But there are random infidelities, and in this case, if you look at the situation from the man's perspective, it turns out that the woman is also to blame in some way.

Of course, when you find out about infidelity, you need to live through those soul-tearing emotions and the sense of betrayal and deception. And when the emotions subside and reason cools down, it's important to think about what exactly you've lost in your relationship (love, care, affection, interest, time, pleasure, sex).

It's important to understand which needs stopped being fulfilled for you and your partner in the relationship, and then it will be easier to find a way out of the situation.

Infidelity is not the end of life; it's the beginning of a new period in your relationship. It's a crisis that indicates something needs to change in the relationship.

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Sometimes women become so engulfed in motherhood, household tasks, and work that they start to forget about themselves, their appearance, their development, their needs. They stop being interesting even to themselves. And here it's good to answer the question: "Where am I betraying myself? What don't I allow myself to do, what do I forbid myself to desire? Where did I lose love for myself?"

In the life of practically every woman, infidelity can occur, and it's crucial to understand what you will do with it next.

As specialists say, there are two solutions.

The first - "I will try to preserve the family, and together we will cope, starting to build new relationships with my husband".

In this case, I am ready to forgive, not to remember and not to reproach my husband, but to find new interests, new emotions with my husband.

It's essential to talk with your husband, to let him know that you are aware of the infidelity, having physical evidence. Then explain to him that your relationship is possible only if he chooses you and your family, and no other woman will be present in your life.

Often such a conversation is better conducted in a family psychologist's office, as it's difficult to discuss this topic without resentment and accusations. In this case, the psychologist will be a neutral party who will help your couple be heard, help you express everything that has been troubling you, and find a way out of this situation. In order to understand which spouses' needs were unmet and discover how to ignite the "spark of love and mutual understanding".
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The second solution - the woman cannot forgive and sees the only chance is to leave the relationship. The sole desire is to lose this person, erase him from her life and continue to live by herself, without him. In this case, it's important to remember, if there are children, that this man, no matter what kind of husband he is, will always remain the father of his children.

And in this case, one must be prepared that the children will want to see him and accept the situation that children have the right to their father's attention and love.

Every woman has the choice and right to act as she deems correct. But before making a final decision, try to consult a specialist. Tell them what worries you, "pour out" all your emotions, live through this state.

After this, it will be much easier for you to make a conscious decision, to understand if you can forgive and if you will continue to trust this man. Or if the relationship with this man is a "turned page in the book of your life". 

Every woman deserves a family relationship where honesty, fidelity, and love are valued.

Every woman is born to be happy, to be loved, and to love!

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