Once upon a time, on a fine day, any, even the most well-behaved, pleasant, kind, responsive, hug-loving child transforms into a "thorn". And they expel, in both literal and figurative sense, the once beloved parents from their space. This can undoubtedly confuse, and sometimes even infuriate, the parents.

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 Don't panic, because this is temporary and welcome to the teenage years.

Hundreds of books are written about the complexities of adolescence, and most likely all parents mentally prepare for this period, but when it actually happens with you and your child, it can be very painful.

It is important to remember here that it's not easier for teenagers because they are experiencing rapid changes: hormonal, physical, social - and this usually confuses them, disorients them, and sometimes even scares them.  And as their self-awareness changes, they don't always know how to communicate with the outside world, especially with their parents.

Teenagers often hide their true feelings, and if something bothers them, they usually don't talk about it and don't ask for support from their parents. But they may pour out their hearts to friends' parents, coaches, school psychologists, or mentors, etc.

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 Here it is important for parents not to take things personally and in no case to punish their child but to remain "emotionally available" to them.

And what is also important - to take care of a mentor whom the parents would trust as much as the teenager does.

Who is a mentor? Mentors are any adult person in a child's life who can listen, possibly give adult advice or share life experience. A person who is interesting as an individual and can inspire. Most importantly, they should be a worthy role model. And the teenager, in the process of communication, should be able to receive positive life skills.

 All children show interest in creativity, sports, dance, acting, etc. And most likely by the teenage years, they already excel in something. Coaches, club leaders, studios, many schools now practice tutoring and have authority among teenagers. It is precisely these people, proven by time and life experience, who can become mentors for children and with whom parents should have contact.

Detachment from parents is a temporary and passing phenomenon, but if parents notice apathy or signs of depression in a teenager against the background of detachment, it is imperative to consult a psychologist, especially if it concerns alcohol, psychoactive substances, sexual deviations, or extreme behavior in the educational institution.

And most importantly, remember that despite all the external manifestations, sometimes frightening to parents, this is still their child and they will always need love, acceptance, and support from their parents.

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